This time I want to tackle the issue of sexual activity among teens. I will be addressing the subject of “Traps Teens Face” on Sunday morning, June 1, but I was not able to include all my finding in the allotted message time. So I want to cover one of the aspects I will not be able to discuss as extensively as I would like on Sunday, teen sexual activity.
We can resort to denial and say it isn’t happening, but it is happening and with increased frequency and with new expressions. Now, this subject may be too honest and open for some, so you are free to check out at any time, but here are some of the results of secular studies in the last couple years.
* Nearly half (46%) of all 15-19-year-olds in the United States have had sex at least once.
* By age 15, only 13% of teens have ever had sex. However, by the time they reach age 19, seven in 10 teens have engaged in sexual intercourse.
* Most young people have intercourse for the first time at about age 17, but do not marry until their middle or late 20s. This means that young adults are at risk of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) for nearly a decade.
* But creative as teens are they have discovered what they believe to be a safe alternative, oral sex. A study by the national center for health reveals that more teens today are engaging in oral sex than intercourse, more than 50% of 15-19 yr olds. That includes both the giving and receiving of oral sex. There is a teenage oral sex craze in America.
The thinking of many teens though, is that oral sex is really not sex. Sex to be sex has to involve penetration. A couple article in the USATODAY, published right after one teen sexual activity study was published, described the thinking of teens on the oral sex practice. This is an easy link to the articles as appeared in the USATODAY.
This study of teen thinking and sexual practices revealed that the feeling of teens is that oral sex is not really sex. But even more revealing is the teen belief that oral sex is an acceptable alternative to the “real thing” of intercourse. And that most of those who engage in oral sex do so to keep from going “all the way.”
But then there is this research finding that was just published by the secular Guttmacher Institute a couple weeks ago that says that isn’t true. In fact the study discovered that teens who engage in oral sex are engaging in intercourse as well. Here is a link to this study results.
So what exactly is sex? And is oral sex really sex? At the risk of getting too descriptive and at the risk of being too narrow in defining it, let me site the definition of sex from a book from the Medical Institute for Sexual Health, called Questions Kids Ask About Sex.
“Sex occurs when one person touches another person’s genitals and causes that person to get sexually excited,” the book states. “A girl or boy who’s had oral sex doesn’t feel or think like a virgin anymore, because he or she has had a form of sex.”
This is a personal as well as a real issue facing our teens and future teens today, and all of society as well. Parents, don’t ignore this issue. Talk to your kids. Begin early and talk to them often. Preempt all of the wrong thinking they are going to be bombarded with from every imaginable source. Be proactive in the sex war. If you don’t, your child may very easily become one of the statistics of future research.
Thanks for hanging with the discussion. Why shouldn’t authentic Christ followers be some of the first to tackle and discuss the tough issues that face our teens and all of today’s society?