Here is the one thing that keeps you from peaceful circumstances, what keeps you tense and nervous and stressed out about the things in your life. It’s your demand for an explanation. When something goes wrong in your life, when something doesn’t happen the way you think it ought to happen, you go, “Why?? Why, God? Why is this happening? Why did You allow this? Why is this happening to me?” and by going over and over it in your mind trying to figure out why something happened, you are kept in turmoil.
Here’s what you need to understand about demanding an explanation of the things that happen in your life.
One, God doesn’t owe you an explanation for anything. He’s not obligated to explain everything that He does to you. You are the creation, He is the creator. God is a good God, He’s a just God, He’s a fair God, He’s a loving God, and He understands things that you don’t. You need to just say ok. The fact is, God doesn’t owe you an explanation for anything in your life.
Two, even if He did explain why things happen the way they do, you probably wouldn’t understand it. God’s mind is so much greater than your mind, you can’t comprehend all the ways of God. There are forces at work in your life, in your family, in our world and throughout history that, if God sat down and took the time to explain to you how generations affect generations and on and on, you probably wouldn’t understand it anyway.
Third, explanations never bring peace anyway. You think, “If I just knew why this happened, then it would make sense” No, it won’t. Some of you have figured out why certain things happened in your life but it didn’t bring peace. You still felt resentful or bitter or angry or upset or whatever. Explanations never satisfy. What comforts us is the presence of God in our life. Not God’s explanations, God’s care and concern and comfort. Stop looking for something that you really don’t need.
The classic example of accepting things that cannot be changed is the story of Job. In the Old Testament, Job played in the superbowl of suffering. This guy was the wealthiest man who had ever lived. He was a very godly man, very dedicated, very devout to God. One day, actually a 48-hour period, he lost everything. First, all ten of his kids were murdered. Then he lost all his wealth, his crops were destroyed. His flocks and herds were destroyed. He went bankrupt instantly. He lost everything he had overnight. Then, as if that weren’t enough, he got a terrible, painful disease that left open soars on his body oozing and left him in pain 24-hours a day. You think you had a rough day! That’s pretty tough. The only thing that he was left with was a nagging wife! And she comes to Job and says, “Why don’t you just curse God and die?” That’s what I call emotional support!!!
But the most difficult thing about Job’s circumstance is this: there was no apparent explanation given. He had no reason why all these things had befallen him. There was no understanding, no hint, no God saying, “This is why I’m doing this, allowing this in your life.” Looking back, we can see what was going on because, as we read the book of Job, we find out that there were forces at work, that God was allowing a test, that Satan was involved – there were all kinds of things that were going on that Job didn’t understand. We can see that looking back, but he had no idea in the moment. It didn’t make sense and the most difficult part of it was this: Job says, “Why is this happening, God? I’m a good guy!” And for 37 chapters God says nothing! Zip!
Have you ever been in a crisis when God was silent? That is one of the most difficult things to handle in life. When you’re going, “Why? Why is this happening?” And your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling and nothing is coming through. Job was going through the greatest test of his life. It was a test of his peace of mind but it was also a test of his character. This is the guy who said, “Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him.” And it was a major test.
Here’s the point of the story and life: When God is silent you need ACCEPTANCE.