Those born from 1930 to 1979 and everyone since

I have no idea where this originated but every part of it is true of me except the part about the street lights. I lived outside a town of 900 people and we had no street lights.

1930’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s!

First, we survived being born to mothers
Who smoked and/or drank while they were

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing,
Tuna from a can and didn’t get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-base paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles,
Locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode
Our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads.

As infants & children,
We would ride in cars with no car seats,
No booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.

Riding in the back of a pick-up truck on a warm day
Was always a special treat.

We drank water
From the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends,
From one bottle and no one actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon..
We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar.
And, we weren’t overweight.

Because we were
Always outside playing…that’s why!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day,
As long as we were back when the
Streetlights came on.

No one was able
To reach us all day. And, we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps
And then ride them down the hill, only to find out
We forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes
a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo’s and X-boxes.
There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable,
No video movies or DVD’s, no surround-sound or CD’s,
No cell phones, No personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS
And we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth
And there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt,
And the worms did not live in us

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays,
Made up games with sticks and tennis balls and,
Although we were told it would happen,
We did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and
Knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just
Walked in and talked to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team.
Those who didn’t had to learn to deal
With disappointment.
Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law
Was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best
Risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.

The past 50 years
Have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility,
and we learned how to deal with it all.

If YOU are one of them?
You might want to share this with others
who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the
lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives
for our own good .

While you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know
how brave and lucky their parents were.

Kind of makes you want to run through the house
with scissors, doesn’t it ?



What people are saying about NVCC

“First off; (NVCC is) wow!

Second, God is amazing and is most definitely working thru NVCC… no matter if it’s from Music, to the Sermon’s, to the congregation, and then to the outreach programs.  Steve is an incredible and passionate speaker who (thru God’s word) really move us to get up and GO spread the word of His love. NVCC allows my family to truly get into the heart of worship and that compels us to grow… Love, Faith, hope. “


“Real people, living real life, together, with God”


“I chose to try NVCC because when I researched the website, it appeared to be a multi cultural church.  I stayed because of the praise and worship, the teachings with notes, the atmosphere, and the work that NVCC does for the community.”


“I would describe my experience at NVCC as fulfilling.  NVCC teaches the message to serve and sacrifice, while still providing the encouragement to seek God by developing a relationship with him.


“I would describe my 4 months at New Venture as: A whole new world- where you learn what Jesus is really about. New Venture speaks “the truth”. Easy to learn the message of scripture because it is taught in a very “New living version” where the message is tied into everyday life. You will feel “at home” the second you walk in. Unique in the fact that people of all ages interact so well. A band that “Rocks”! Very active church that has passion and conviction in their ministry.”


“Awesome! I love NVCC.  The messages always seem to speak to me in some way.  They are messages that help me to grow in God’s Holy Spirit.  The people are fantastic! They’re loving, caring Christians who truly care for each other.”


“So far attending NVCC has been a refreshing experience in worshipping my Lord Jesus. No rituals, no reciting, but straight Spirit filled teaching from the word of God.”


“Good people. Great sermons.”


  1. “ Fulfilling
  2.  Redeeming
  3. Affirming
  4. Friendly
  5. Spiritual
  6. Loving
  7. Godsend
  8. Community
  9. Fun
  10. Enriching
  11. Empowering
  12. Journey
  13. Sharing
  14. Caring
  15. 15 Social
  16. Changing
  17. Renewing
  18. Cleansing
  19. Learning
  20. Giving
  21. Enlightening
  22. Teaching
  23. Service
  24. Volunteering
  25. focusing
  26. Adventuring
  27. friendships
  28. Inspiring
  29. Inspirational
  30. Reaching
  31. Searching
  32. Singing
  33. Listening
  34. Groups
  35. Evolving
  36. Soulful
  37. Touching
  38. Musical
  39. Blessings
  40. Expanding
  41. Moving
  42. Blessed”


Infidelity in Marriage – What Really Causes Affairs? By George Fellows

“Just what are the real reasons for infidelity in marriage? We all have quite skewed opinions on this, but the more you delve into it the less clear cut it gets. The reality is often quite sad in fact, quite fraught with ordinary human frailty and wrong headed thinking rather than pure lust and ego.

This is a list I have compiled from my own research into the matter and I am convinced that men and women have basically the same reasons despite most people thinking that men do it out of lust alone.

  • Cultural differences – Sometimes people’s backgrounds of culture or ethnicity are so far apart that there is a gap between them, a distance that seems impossible to cross. This can sometimes lead to one partner falling into something more culturally familiar and leads to an affair.
  • Disappointment in partners growth – When we get together we do so because we share something and to begin with we grow together and in the same ways. Somewhere along the way however our growth as people can stagnate or change paths. Our personalities change and suddenly one day one partner cannot see the same lover they fell in love with.
  • Unrealistic expectations – This one speaks for itself. What we perceive of marriage being like is often such a lofty ideal that the reality of hard work in a relationship becomes too much of a strain because of our unrealistic beliefs.
  • Curiosity – As terrible as it sounds some people simply have to know if the grass is greener and are not satisfied until they know. Most tend to find it is not as good as they think and it ends at that but the temptation is always there.
  • Lack of Fun – A lack of excitement and falling into a rut can drive most people crazy. This is easy to remedy in most cases but sometimes communication breaks down so much that this can be a tipping point when an exciting person enters their life that can lead to infidelity in marriage.
  • Lack of physical intimacy – Despite what most women think this is the same for both genders in many cases. Physical intimacy is a part of marriage and love and is not simply lust driven but acceptance driven. Being intimate and fulfilled in that regard is essential to a good marriage and when this falters it can spark very bad thoughts in some men and women who seek it elsewhere to fill the hole.
  • Unable to accommodate a partner’s needs or expectations – Sometimes a relationship is hard and if you cannot accommodate certain needs or expectations of your partner they might see opportunities elsewhere.
  • Poor Communication – So many problems can be solved by talking them through and communicating clearly the needs and desires that should be in a marriage. Sometimes this communication either never existed or broke down somewhere along the way driving them to someone else who could provide what they felt is missing.

You see, I believe that it is rarely that a man cheats on his wife just because his young 20 year old secretary has a tiny waist. It is rare that the poolboy just has such a hard toned body that a woman gives in to him and creates Infidelity in Marriage. These cases may happen but they are usually in the realms of Hollywood and their desire to show the bad guy/girl and not the real emotional drive behind such a thing.”

These, no doubt, are not all the reasons affairs happen. Understanding all the reasons is not of greatest importance. The most pressing need is to understand how to affair proof your marriage. I highly recommend you go to this link and listen to the recording on “Faithfulness.” <>

The subtitle is “How to affair proof your Marriage.” It could prevent lots of heart break and heart ache.

Natalie, welcome to this world

I am delighted to introduce to you Natalie Danielle Thornton, born Thursday, March 8 to our middle son and wife, Timothy and Daphane Thornton. Natalie weighed six pounds and one ounce and was eighteen inches long. Daphane and Natalie are home now getting used to life in the Thornton household. She joins her two big sisters, Audrey and Eloise.

Natalie is our sixth grandchild with our seventh due in August to our youngest son, Matthew and his wife, Jess





Christianity is radically other-centered

Let’s talk about kindness. We don’t do that enough. Kindness is love in action. It’s not a feeling.  It is something you do.  When you’re kind you take action, you move, you’re practical, you show love in a practical way.

The ministry of kindness is for every single follower of Christ.  It is interesting to me that in Matthew 25, Jesus says that at the judgment, the one thing you’ll be judged for is how you treated other people.  “I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink.  I was naked and you clothed me.  I was sick and in prison and you visited me.”  How we treated other people.  What we’re talking about is not some minor issue; it is the heart of Christianity.  Love in action

The Bible says, “In response to all God has done for us, let us outdo each other in being helpful and kind to each other…” (Hebrews 10:24) I don’t know a more counter culture statement than that right there.  In a society that is absolutely self-centered where the whole issue is “What’s in it for me? I’m too busy to care about anybody else’s problem or need.  I’ve got my agenda, my goals, my needs, my desires — forget the rest of the world.”  God says, in light of what He’s done for us, “let us outdo each other in showing kindness and love.”

Who could you be kind to this week?  At home, at school, at work, a neighbor you don’t even like, an enemy, a boss… Where could you show kindness?  God has placed all kinds of opportunities before you to demonstrate love in action.  Just open your eyes.  Just look around you.  There are people all around you with obvious needs who are waiting to be helped by you, because you’ve been helped by God. 

Years ago, the great famous bishop, Fulton Sheen, went to the southern part of Africa and he was visiting a leprosy colony and as he leaned down to talk to a man who had just a little loin cloth around him, laying on the ground, his body was eaten alive from leprosy also with many sores from other diseases, open running soars.  Fulton Sheen leaned down to talk to this man and as he did the chain around his neck on which there was a cross, broke and the cross fell into an open soar on the man’s leg.  Fulton Sheen said, “I was just kind of repulsed by the whole picture, image of it.”  Then he said, “All of a sudden I was filled with compassion, with kindness.  I reached into that soar and I took up the cross.” 

I don’t know a finer definition of what it means to be a Christian.  God wants you to go out this week in the market place of the world where people are hurting and bleeding emotionally and physically and mentally and spiritually, where people are hurting with obvious open wounds, and he wants you to take up the cross—whatever it takes.  The whole business of Christianity is healing broken messed up lives.  If there is nothing in your life that has to do with any of that, you might want to question your Christianity. You really do. Christianity is not about just me feeling good and making my life easy, but it is radically other-centered.

Food for “Feed the Kids” pours in at a 15% rate

With the first wave of our South side Richmond, “Feed the Kids” effort well under way we are seeing the food donations roll in. So far we have collected 107 bags from people in the Midlothian community. That figures out to about a 15% return on bags distributed vs. bags collected. That may not seem like much, but check out the comparisons.

According to some published reports from various nonprofits in VA, most “cold” call donations (mass distribution, phone calling, people unaffiliated with the organization) expect a 2% return at best (1% is not uncommon)

  • The Boy scouts food drive most often collect between 2% and 10% depending on the neighborhood, weather, level of awareness, etc.
  • AM Vets (which collects household items, not food) expects a 3% response, but notes that a number of items are not particularly usable.
  • 4 different South side churches report a 2% to 4% return on neighborhood canvassing drives.
  • Neighborhood drives that the VA does for homeless vets has a return rate of about 5% because the visibility and long-standing advertising in vet and medical centers etc.

Thanks to everyone who is participating in this first wave. If you still have bags to collect or would like to make a food donation, bring it on. Send me an email at and I will get any info to you that you might need.

We are now preparing to move on to phase #2 which is collection points at local grocery stores. The dates to set up tables are March 17 or 24 from noon to 3 pm. We will provide a list to those entering of items needed and invite them to purchase from the list and drop it by the table on the way out. Again, if you are interested in helping shoot me an email.

We are making a difference in the health and nutritional needs of many kids on the South side.