First off, who is your kids sex ed teacher ? In most cases it is the evil one, Satan i.e., the Devil. Though others may communicate his message, he is the writer of the curriculum. John 8:44 tells us the heart and motivation of the evil one. “When the devil lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and he is the father of lies.” Understand clearly that he is lying to your kids about sex. Contrast Satan with Jesus, in John 8:32, Jesus said, “Then you will know the truth the truth will set you free.”
Very specifically, here are five lies Satan is teaching your kids about sex.
- Sex is no big deal and if you aren’t having it you might just consider friends with benefits as an alternative.
- Oral sex is okay because it really isn’t sex. Bill Clinton said it wasn’t and he certainly knows better than your parents.
- It is cool to be bi-curious, to try both sides out, guys and girls. It’s okay and doesn’t mean you are gay.
- Porn is awesome and is really a victimless indulgence.
- Dress hot, show skin. Wear tighter clothes and cover less.
If you are feeling a little upset at this point over this kind of discussion I need to say very respectfully, you need to pull your head out of the sand, because your kids in the second and third grade, are hearing stuff much, much more graphic than this, and we need to recognize what our spiritual enemy is trying to tell our children about sex.
With that in mind, let’s look for a moment at what Satan doesn’t want your kids to know about sex. We are going to look at the words of the apostle Paul as he was writing to a church in Corinth. A little bit of context on the people in Corinth during Paul’s day will help our understanding. Corinth was a port city, and people would come from all over into Corinth because, very literally, they could get any kind of sex they wanted, and this city was more messed up than anything you could ever imagine. People would go to the temple to have sex with the temple prostitutes for all sorts of weird reasons. For example, it was very common for farmers to go into the temple to have sexual relations with the temple prostitutes in hopes that the gods would then make their lands more fertile. So you can imagine farmer Joe saying, “Honey, gotta go fertilize the crops again,” and this is just kind of what they were doing. And there were all sorts of weird practices in line with this.
Now, Paul spoke into that situation, and I want you to notice a very specific truth he makes, your body belongs to God. Or to make it rhyme, your bod belongs to God. Here’s how he says it. “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
What people will say is, “Hey, what’s the big deal? It’s my body. I can do whatever I want. It’s my body. Who are you to tell me what to do with my body?” Actually, it’s not your body. Did you make it? Create it? No. God did that. If your body gets sick, do you heal it? No. God is the One who brings healing. If your body is fallen, it is because of sin? Do you redeem your body? No, Jesus does that. When you die, your body goes to the ground? When your body is raised, will you raise it? No. Do you give yourself a new body in Heaven? No. It’s not your body. It’s God’s.
Because it is God’s body, He said to us in verse 13. “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” The body is not meant for sexual immorality, which raises the question, people want to know what is sexual immorality. Is it looking at pornography. Is that immorality? That’s not that big of a deal, people say. Is premarital sex immorality? It shouldn’t be, others say. Is adultery immorality? Is it a little fooling around, is that immorality?
Well, the Greek word that is translated as sexual immorality is the word porneia. You recognize that word? Porn? Por-ni’-ah, and it means illicit sex, including adultery, incest, premarital sex, or any extramarital sexual arousal. When we understand that, it broadens our mindset of what is sexual immorality. Any extramarital sexual arousal. Would pornography be considered extramarital sexual arousal? Absolutely. Pornography would be sexual immorality. Would fooling around, though, you know, we are technically a virgin. We’re just doing everything, but … Would that be sexual immorality? Well, according to this, it absolutely would be. So, in case I need to spell it out for you very, very clearly, yes, intercourse outside of marriage would be sexual immorality, so no intercourse, no outer course, you know, rubbing your body together. No, that’s sexual arousal. No intercourse; no outer course; no upper course; no lower course. Okay? No coursing. That’s what sexual immorality is
And sexual immorality gets very, very messy. Maybe that’s why the apostle Paul told us to flee sexual immorality. He said, “Flee from it. Run from it. Get out of Dodge. Run Forrest, run. Flee from sexual immorality.” Why? Because, “All other sins that a man commits are outside of his body, but he who sins sexually sin against their own body.” (6:18) There is a difference. Yes, all sin separates us from God, but all sins don’t have the same consequences. Sexual sin is messy, isn’t it? Many of you know that. You know that the pain and the horror of STD’s, and the fear and intensity of unwanted pregnancy, and the guilt, and the shame, and the confusion, and, “I thought we were in love, but now we’re not. Now, I hate you, and I am confused, and I don’t know what to do,” and there’s this baggage that I’m bringing along because sexual sin is messy. It’s different than other sins.
For example, in 42 years of ministry, I’ve done hundreds of weddings and countless premarital counseling sessions. Here’s what I never, ever heard. I never, ever heard some guy look at me and go, “Man, you know, I love her, but I don’t think I can marry her because she’s got a severe parking problem. She gets parking tickets like three, four, maybe five times a year, and I cannot marry someone with a parking problem.” Never heard that. Never heard a girl say, “You know, I love him and he’s perfect in every way, but I hate to tell you this, he’s a jaywalker. I mean, he’ll just walk right up to that thing and it says, “Don’t walk,” and he just doesn’t care, and he walks.” Those are sins, but they don’t seem to destroy relationships the way other ones do.
Now, what I have heard is a girl in premarital counseling or marital counseling say this about her fiancé, or a wife say this about her husband, “I don’t know if I can continue, because he just looks at porn all the time, and it devastates me.” And then, I watch as she just cries and says, “It makes me feel insecure and vulnerable, and like I’m not good enough, and it doesn’t make me want to be intimate with him, and it makes me feel dirty, and I don’t know if I can trust him.” Now, I do hear that. Or the guy say, “Hey, I want to marry this girl, but man, you know what? She’s been with so many guys like in the past that it scares the fire out of me. I’m wondering if she’s going to be comparing me, and am I going to, you know, am I going to measure up. And here, for all these years, she obviously wasn’t faithful to God’s standard before we were married, so I don’t know if she’ll be faithful to His standard after we are married.” Sexual sin, it’s messy.
On the other hand, I’ve never heard a person say, “Steve, man, I am just so mad at myself that my spouse and I didn’t mess around before we were married, I regret it. I hate that we did it God’s way. If only we had just gotten it on while we were dating.” Never heard that. Never, ever heard that, but what I have heard was this. I’ve heard, “Oh, my gosh. If only I had known then what I know now, and I could have done it different, I wouldn’t be in the middle of all this crap now,” because sexual sin is messy. Your bod belongs to God and sexual sin is messy, really really messy. Run from it. Run from it with all you’ve got. Run Forrest run.